FIRST AND BEST HELP

The pad on the head does not reduce the weight of a carried load. It only makes it comfortable to carry.

In life, people can be of great help to you but they cannot do everything for you.You can best help yourself.

You can be spoon -fed but nobody can swallow for you.

The door can be opened for you but no one will not force you to enter.

Others may guide you to see opportunities available, but they cannot force you to utilize them.

Apart from God, nobody than yourself can best help you.

Do not over-rely on the help of others but do everything to help yourself first.

USEFUL HURDLES

Friction, an obstruction, in most cases, becomes a basic requirement for movement.

Sometimes, we can only reach our set goal through series of pains, disappointments, challenges, rise and falls.

Failure in an aspect of your life does not spell your tragic end. It is an opportunity to learn and re-strategise.

Great and finest personalities never succeeded unimpeded and unchallenged.

Be endowed with the needed mental strength to face, accept and overcome the hurdles in all your endeavors.

USEFUL HURDLES

Friction, an obstruction, in most cases, becomes a basic requirement for movement.

Sometimes, we can only reach our set goal through series of pains, disappointments, challenges, rise and falls.

Failure in an aspect of your life does not spell your tragic end. It is an opportunity to learn and re-strategise.

Great and finest personalities never succeeded unimpeded and unchallenged.

Be endowed with the needed mental strength to face, accept and overcome the hurdles in all your endeavors.

PATIENT BUT PRUDENT TOLERANCE

We live in an imperfect world with imperfect people, things do not always follow the ordered pattern.

People will not always meet your expectations, learn to accommodate.

People will not always understand and be sensitive to your situation, learn to be patient.

People will mostly treat you based on their interest, not to meet your needs, learn to work for yourself.

The best way to deal with people and situations you have no control is patient but prudent accommodation.

Tolerance is not a weakness, but a strategy to keep yourself from avoidable hurts and disappointments.

Learn to torelate patiently and prudently.

LEARN TO LISTEN

Listening is not passivity, it is silent but priceless activity.

You do not lose your value and dignity when you listen.

Listening is mostly unattractive but it reveals, guides and guards.

We can best speak and act when we actively listen.

Take time to listen, it is not only a silent act of maturity, it coaches and equips us to bring the best in us.

LEARN TO ADAPT

The world is fast moving, those who are not able to move in the same pace are left behind.

The world gradually and unconsciously eliminates those who are not able to adapt to the changes and challenges.

Adapting to new environment and situation is a basic requirement for survival and usefulness.

You cannot best survive and function when you solely and firmly hold on to your old mentality, attitude and strategy in the fast changing world.

No matter how best your ideas, they gradually lose their relevance with time and environment.

You cannot always change situation and environment to suit your interest but you can always adapt to meet the demands of the changing times.

AN UNCOVERED HOLE

When a hole is left uncovered, anything can be used to fill it.

People will easily think and even decide for you when you do not make your intentions clear.

Be careful of the vacuum you leave in your life.

Fill it yourself otherwise others will fill it to suit their interest.

When we present doubtful behavior and make vague comments, we give people the chance to interpret them according to their own spectacle.

People may speculate but you are the best person to give the exact meaning to what you say and do.

Be clear in your silence, words and actions in order not to give people the chance to distort your plans and goals.

WHO MODELS YOU?

Our direction and destination mostly determine who and where to learn from.

There are several models, but not all are useful to your goal.

There are several models, but not all their deeds are relevant to your time, world and situation.

Models have positive connotation but they can be misleading and destructive when what they teach are not critically examined.

Models are helpful guides but not sacrosanct roadmap to your growth and greatness.

Do not blindly follow your models, they also have dark sides. Objectively learn from their strengths and weaknesses.

You are not a replica of your models, imitate to improve, not to destroy your uniqueness and goal.

PRUDENT FEAR

A person who has nothing to fear is like a brakeless wheel, it is highly prone to destruction.

A person who is stupidly courageous does not critically assess the demands and the dangers of his actions but totally focuses on his abilities and zeal.

Do not be carried away by your competence, experience and achievements, let the prudent fear of failure caution you.

You may be over confident due to your abilities, strength and beauty, let the existence and the prudent fear of death minimise and even limit your pride and actions.

No matter how strong and finest you are, someone or something can bring and break you down.

Prudent fear are invisible cautions of life, let it be your guide and guard.

THERE ARE STILL GOOD PEOPLE

Our minds are mostly tuned to negativity, that we only see the dark side of humanity.

There are bad people with diabolical and destructive intentions.

There are also good people with good and constructive intentions.

There are still good people in the world, do not let evils in our society keep you from seeing and appreciating the good people.

There are still good people, be objective, you will find them.

There are still good people, if you cannot find one, try to be one.