The pad on the head does not reduce the weight of a carried load. It only makes it comfortable to carry.
In life, people can be of great help to you but they cannot do everything for you.You can best help yourself.
You can be spoon -fed but nobody can swallow for you.
The door can be opened for you but no one will not force you to enter.
Others may guide you to see opportunities available, but they cannot force you to utilize them.
Apart from God, nobody than yourself can best help you.
Do not over-rely on the help of others but do everything to help yourself first.