Drums are to accompany the words and the rhythm of the music but they are not to overshadow them.
People in your life are to add value to your worth, they are not to destroy your identity and worth.
Those who assist you are to cushion your efforts, they are not to usurp your responsibilities.
People may influence, support and direct you but not all supports are useful to your goal, and not all directions lead you to your intended destination.
Critically evaluate the views of others and lessons from circumstances of life before you adopt them relevantly to your life.